Why do women show more skin than men?

Why do women show more skin than men?

Why is it acceptable for a woman to wear shorts as short as her knickers, but for men it is deemed ‘unattractive’ and ‘ugly’.

Why are women’s clothes designed to be more flamboyant and revealing, but if a man wears clothes like that, where his neckline is halfway down his chest, he is ‘stereotypically gay’?

Advocates for feminism claim that women are allowed to wear and do as they please, and should not be ‘victim blamed’ when they are raped.

The same logic applies to children; dressing children in skimpy clothes is a controversial matter. Some say children should wear things like that because it is freedom of choice and all that, while others say that is just inviting paedophiles. Nobody is blaming a child if he/she is sexually abused, but they are saying dressing a child like that encourages paedophilia and parents should refrain from ‘sexualising’ their children at such a young age.

Yes, women will be raped whether or not they dress modestly, but the majority of men see the way a woman dresses as a provocative ‘invitation’. And it is ignorant to assume women (and of course, men) will not be sexualised. We are all human, and the majority of us will find certain people sexually attractive, it is human nature.

So, now that we have established that is in human nature to sexualise people, doesn’t it seem obvious that if we do not want to be sexualised, we should not wear clothes that highlight our ‘sexiness’? And if we are sexualised because we are wearing clothes that make us look sexy, should we get upset about it and have a rant and say ‘men are pigs’?

If a woman is wearing a see through dress with barely anything underneath, she is demonstrating her right to do so, but also showing that her nudity is bare and public for everybody to see and enjoy and look at. Some say that is perfectly fine, and she is an independent lady and should do what makes her comfortable.

That is all very well in the grand scheme of things, but when it comes down to the nitty gritty, it is clear that her clothing is showing that the body parts she has on display are just that; on display. There for whoever pleases to look at. And when they do look (well, why wouldn’t they?) should a woman be angry about it?

I don’t think so. I think she made it very clear by wearing that skimpy, see through dress, that she was okay with people staring at her nipples.

There is a big difference between appraising somebody because they are beautiful, and appraising them because their bodies are on show.

This whole topic has a lot of sub-themes and arguments, of course. And I am of the disposition that people should have the right and freedom to do  and wear as they please, but, to me, there has to be a certain level of propriety, that’s all. And this applies to both women and men.

It is within my rights of freedom to walk out and not see somebody’s butt cheeks.

What do you think about it all?

18 thoughts on “Why do women show more skin than men?

  1. That’s a good, thoughtful post on a very complicated issue. And I agree with you – as a guy I’d look at a lot of cleavage on display, but I do try not to ogle. So now you’ve got me wondering when looking becomes ogling. Oh, dear… I’m actually in the middle of a chapter on this very issue, so thanks for a timely post!

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    • Thank you, Curtis. I suppose looking becomes ogling when the looked at feels uncomfortable? Don’t fret too much about it, I am a woman and although I am not attracted to women, I find myself ‘looking/ogling’ when cleavage is on display. I can’t help myself, it is just there, you know? Well good luck with your chapter, it sounds mighty interesting!

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  2. An interesting post in a complex matter. I agree without you on all counts: it’s a personal choice and everyone can choose what to wear (or not wear) and no one else has a right to force the issue. At the same time how much is too much when it comes to showing your body? Public decency and all that? I’m Muslim so I know a lot of girls who so hijab and if asked, most of them say the same thing: they choose to do hijab because they choose not to show their bodies to the general public. I feel it goes both ways: If a woman isn’t being forced to bare or cover herself, if she’s choosing her level of coverage herself, than no one gets to tell them they are wrong.

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    • Yes, I like that, how much IS too much?! You’re right, nobody does get to tell them what is wrong, BUT I do think that there is such a thing as too little coverage, especially in the public domain. There is a big difference between wearing the hijab for choice (obviously, wear what you want!) and wearing clothes so tight and revealing that people feel uncomfortable and have to avert their eyes. Wear what you want, of course, but be mindful of where you are going. Like people wear bikinis at the beach, and this is acceptable, but wearing bikinis or bikini style clothing at the mall is a different matter entirely! 🙂

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  3. An attractive woman walking around in clothing that shows off her body being upset that people are sexually attracted to her is absolutely ridiculous. Fire is hot, water is wet, and people are attracted to attractive people.

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    • It’s not a question of whether people are attracted to her, it’s a question of what they do with that attraction. People are attracted to all kinds of people–appropriately and inappropriately. If they enjoy it and keep it to themselves, no problem. If they assume they’ve been invited to intrude on someone else’s body, space, and life, then they’ve crossed a line. If they rape someone, they’re rapists, regardless of what the person was wearing.

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      • We have so many acceptable times to see a person’s body exposed. Your article wandered from the main point which was, why women can wear less than men in everyday sorts of situations. Maybe in cheerleading and ballroom too because isn’t the activity basically the same? It’s ok to see naked women. Many cultures in the world live naked and have sexual mores and boundaries. You would seem to condemn a swimsuit because of attraction and desire. I wish you woukd have stuck to the gender comparison. Why can a man be topless but not a woman?
        But mostly Why do I see so many couples engaged in the same activity and the woman is in very skimpy clothes but the man is covered from the collar to the knee? Why world? What is a woman to do in this world? Dress like other woman so she can be considered feminine or dress like a man so she can feel equal? Is sexism built into our dress code?

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      • Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Many cultures in the world do indeed live naked and have sexual boundaries. In the context of Western culture, however, we seem to have gone from dressing modestly (both genders) to dressing in a way that reveals our bodies in the span of a hundred years, which really doesn’t seem to be that much time. I don’t think I condemn a swimsuit because of attraction and desire – in fact I do not condemn a swimsuit at all, unless it was worn in a place where it’s inappropriate to wear one. There is no single answer, I think. Sexism is certainly built into our dress code.

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  4. My friend, women–not all, but many–learn early that they’re valued for their looks and despised if they don’t sexualize themselves. Then when they do, they’re judged for that. Those of use who step outside–or try to–get harassment for that. There’s no way to win this game.

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    • There is no winning, you’re right. I wrote this some time ago, and I have had time for growth. There is so much nuance behind this but it does boil down to women never having the autonomy to do as they see fit for themselves without some sort of intervention.

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      • I agree but I think there is an angle that’s very important that we left out. Humans beings are very sexual beings, both men and women alike. And their sexuality is regulated by the dangers associated with sex. Back around the 1800s, sexuality was repressed because of poverty back then. It wasn’t wise to have children when you couldn’t very well support yourself and children therefore if a guy was to get a woman pregnant then they were inevitably going to get married. because it was easier for two people to raise a child better than one. Sexuality and skimpy clothing was frowned upon.
        After the birth control pill, the dangers of sex seemed to have disappeared in the 1960-50s. Then came diseases, aids, syphilis and other sexually transmitted diseases. Then sexual expression was suppressed again. Then our medicines got better which leads us to now. It seems like there are no consequences to sexual intercourse and that’s why we have a lot of sexual expression going on. Revealing clothes are there to attract mates by women. That’s why clothes will continue to get skimpier as we progress through time, unless other dangers of sex reemerge.

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      • You raise some interesting points. I think a lot of people would point out though, why should there be consequences to sexual intercourse – notwithstanding, of course, the consequences that already existed like unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases and the rise of single parenthood.

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