Can you decline a wedding invitation, a request to go dancing, an enquiry about your ballet shoes?
Can you say no to the girl who asked you to watch her sister while she spends some time with her boyfriend?
Can you say no to the woman who wants to go cycling with you… but you really want to be alone?
Can you say no… when someone says they will pay you £2.50 an hour to teach their son another language?
I couldn’t say no and I was told all the time.. SAY NO. Say NO. No.
No, I said, to those telling me to say no. No, I can’t say no.
Even though I just did.
Say no to the man who says ‘come and see me, be brave.’
Alarm bells clanging and mouth dry and heart wringing in fear.
Say no, Lenora, please.
Just say no.
But I did not say no.
Sometimes I think I have healed but then I wake up dripping in sweat, heart palpitating, from a dream in which I am saying yes to all the things I do not want to do. I am frantic and anxious and running away but I cannot escape him, he has his sharp claws dug deep into my back.
It’s been eight years.
I said yes for two years and then one day I said no and it took all my strength to do it.
And it took me seven months to stop hyperventilating everytime my phone rang.
Took eight months for the severe stomach pains to go away.
It’s been eight years since I said that final no, and I still dream I can’t say no.
So please say no.
Let your children say no when they’re little, so that when they’re big and need to say no, they should be able to.
To the right people.