Every Few Weeks or So

A strange stretch of days

Occurs every few weeks or so

When my body

Doesn’t feel like it belongs to me

It has a wilful mind of its own.

My stomach has a hissy fit,

And demands more chocolate.

When I don’t oblige,

She distends anyway,

Growing twice her usual size,

and sending lightning bolts of pain up my back.

‘Stop it,’ I hiss furiously,

‘We have company.’

She growls in return, then moans

As she crimps herself like an acrobat.

I grimace through the pain.

My joints begin to add to her clamour

Growing stiff

And my muscles bow beneath that pressure.

Am I coming down with the flu?

‘Go to bed,’ my body yowls,

Writhing, cramping, bending, aching.

‘Go

To

Bed.’

I look in the mirror

And my heart sinks.

‘oh,’ I think, ‘I am one

Fat

Piece of work’

Bloated stomach,

Painful chest.

I blubber like a puffed up seal.

But I’ve been working out for three weeks…

Then

It hits me.

Oh.

OH.

I see what’s going on here.

And I recognise this for what it is,

My body just doing her life-y thing.

I have my herbal tea

I cry the hormones into a puddle around my feet

And get on with it,

Like every

other

Female out there.

Soon my body will go back to its rightful state.

My stomach will pull itself together

Smile sheepishly at me

And comply.

My mind will reset itself,

My muscles will yearn for exercise.

My energy will soar through the roof

And all the angst of the days prior,

Will feel illogical, and unfounded.

The body is a wonderful piece of work.

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Why do women show more skin than men?

Why do women show more skin than men?

Why is it acceptable for a woman to wear shorts as short as her knickers, but for men it is deemed ‘unattractive’ and ‘ugly’.

Why are women’s clothes designed to be more flamboyant and revealing, but if a man wears clothes like that, where his neckline is halfway down his chest, he is ‘stereotypically gay’?

Advocates for feminism claim that women are allowed to wear and do as they please, and should not be ‘victim blamed’ when they are raped.

The same logic applies to children; dressing children in skimpy clothes is a controversial matter. Some say children should wear things like that because it is freedom of choice and all that, while others say that is just inviting paedophiles. Nobody is blaming a child if he/she is sexually abused, but they are saying dressing a child like that encourages paedophilia and parents should refrain from ‘sexualising’ their children at such a young age.

Yes, women will be raped whether or not they dress modestly, but the majority of men see the way a woman dresses as a provocative ‘invitation’. And it is ignorant to assume women (and of course, men) will not be sexualised. We are all human, and the majority of us will find certain people sexually attractive, it is human nature.

So, now that we have established that is in human nature to sexualise people, doesn’t it seem obvious that if we do not want to be sexualised, we should not wear clothes that highlight our ‘sexiness’? And if we are sexualised because we are wearing clothes that make us look sexy, should we get upset about it and have a rant and say ‘men are pigs’?

If a woman is wearing a see through dress with barely anything underneath, she is demonstrating her right to do so, but also showing that her nudity is bare and public for everybody to see and enjoy and look at. Some say that is perfectly fine, and she is an independent lady and should do what makes her comfortable.

That is all very well in the grand scheme of things, but when it comes down to the nitty gritty, it is clear that her clothing is showing that the body parts she has on display are just that; on display. There for whoever pleases to look at. And when they do look (well, why wouldn’t they?) should a woman be angry about it?

I don’t think so. I think she made it very clear by wearing that skimpy, see through dress, that she was okay with people staring at her nipples.

There is a big difference between appraising somebody because they are beautiful, and appraising them because their bodies are on show.

This whole topic has a lot of sub-themes and arguments, of course. And I am of the disposition that people should have the right and freedom to do  and wear as they please, but, to me, there has to be a certain level of propriety, that’s all. And this applies to both women and men.

It is within my rights of freedom to walk out and not see somebody’s butt cheeks.

What do you think about it all?